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Understanding the reasons for rejection

In our previous blog, we understood three stages where an interviewee will face rejection. Let us understand the likely reasons for rejection at each of these stages. Reasons for rejecting the resume:  Your resume may not be meeting even the minimum specifications of the job requirement. These requirements are mostly seen as mandatory; any CV that does not meet the minimum criteria will not be shortlisted – even it has other merits. Some of the minimum criteria will include qualifications, academic performance, number of years of experience, age, area of specialization/skills of handling specific machinery, technology, computer languages, platforms etc. There could be other special reasons for rejecting resume’ such as gaps in career, frequent career changes, your present company (in case it has any bad reputation or if there is any non-competing agreement) or your higher qualifications.  Reasons for rejecting at pre-interview stage: After short-listing your resume’, some companies may have additional steps in the selection process before calling your for a personal interview. Such steps include a written test, psychometric test, telephonic interaction, group discussion and so on. Reasons for rejection during this stage are lot more intricate to understand. Seldom have you heard any specific reason for rejection after this stage. You need to keep introspecting and self-evaluating your performance during written test or group discussion. Your language, numerical or technical abilities have to be reassessed based on the focus of the written test. If you were rejected after a telephonic interaction, the primary reason could be your oral communication. It helps to closely scrutinize your English communication! If you had gone through an on-line or paper based psychometric test, it would reveal your personality traits. In case, they find your personality not readily matching the job requirements, you will be rejected. This one is surely difficult to gauge. You may be left wondering why you were rejected. Reasons for rejection after the personal interview: The main reason for rejection after the personal interaction seems to be mismatch of expectations. Your resume would have created some level of positive expectation and in case you could not match to the same during the personal interview, you will often hear a statement – “only good on paper”! When you probe a little deeper, reasons could be simple aspects like poor presentation of yourself, inappropriate dressing, immature talking or comments, attempting to be smarter than the interview panel (telling that they were wrong!), arguing during the interview, throwing too much of attitude in an attempt to project confidence, faking, inconsistent responses, hiding facts and so on. Other reasons could be higher salary expectations, mismatch of role expectations or your longer time to join. During your career, it is common to get rejected in your attempts. Smarter attitude is to understand and analyze the probable reasons for rejection; more importantly, avoid the same mistakes and approach your next attempt more positively! Article – “Reasons for Rejection”By: Dr.Raj, Published in HR Mirror, Hans India.Follow Dr.Raj on Twitter @drraj29

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Negative remarks lead to mental disturbance

In our previous blog, we came across John, a manager who manages team of six members, and reports to Shwetha. John is a terrific communicator, an elegant and confident professional. From a distance, all is well for John but in reality he is facing a two-fold problem both from his superior and his senior most team member. Let’s understand John’s view of Shwetha: “I don’t know how to start to describe my working relationship with Shwetha; it has come to a stage where I don’t want to have interactions with her!” That was a startling revelation. Why has it come to such deterioration? “After every conversation with her, I end up with a feeling of insult and loss of self-worth; she makes me feel that I have not delivered any performance; she can be so fierce in her language yet so cool in her body language; others cannot make out from a distance.“ Is she being unfair in her comments about your performance? Do you think you have delivered but she doesn’t acknowledge? “It is not that I have not delivered; her expectations are too high and she feels that I am not growing. I agree that I need to learn and improve, but making me feel useless is no way to push me for better performance”. At that stage, very unusually, John broke down. I waited for him to regroup himself and he continued. “This is another problem; when I told her that each of her comments are affecting me negatively, she says I am not a strong personality. Perhaps I am not capable; perhaps I am not strong. But I don’t know what to do. Any help from you to deal with this situation will save me. One thing is sure that I do not want to run away from this situation thinking that I am a failure.” What to do? It is surely a complex relationship and it matters to John. Some of the ideas that I could share with John are: 1. This is a classic case of allowing others to decide your self-worth. You need to decide why their negative remarks are important for you; mostly you may not have a strong reason. 2. Ask yourself why do you need to please her all the time. Do you have any reason other than she being your boss? 3. Do carry out a positive self audit; list down all that you take pride as your achievements. 4. Surround yourself with people who are positive about you. 5. Read positive writings. 6. Work on areas that you genuinely think you need to improve. Don not defend with Shwetha. Watch this space for how John handled the other problem case – the senior most member of his team. Excerpts from the article – Negative remarks leads to mental disturbance!By: Dr.Raj, Published in HR Mirror, Hans India.Follow Dr.Raj on Twitter @drraj29 

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Appreciating Diversity!

In the last post, we discussed about two individuals Rukmini and Suresh who are facing tough time in getting through others. Lets discuss about the solution to their problems. Why are they not able to get through others? They both continue to wonder why others are not like them! It is true that they both are passionate and ambitious individuals. They carry many positives in them. However, the biggest missing piece seems to be their appreciation of diversity. Diversity ­- what does it mean? It is a simple English word, which indicates variety. Diversity can come in many forms at work place. Most well known forms of diversity are gender diversity, cultural diversity, language diversity, age, nationality and so on. In addition, diversity can also come in more subtle forms such as styles, skills, values, personalities and so on. We will not be the same we are certainly not the same in our work styles, our skills, our priorities and personalities. Some examples: All of us may not learn the same way; some prefer learning through reading; some by doing; some by observing and some by thinking. If you force me to follow the same learning style that works for style that works for you, I may not show excitement. I will become a slow or disinterested learner. Similarly, when two people are working, their working styles may not be the same. One prefers to think, plan, discuss and then do; whereas the other may like to get on with doing and if a problem arises, then approach others. Some prefer working in teams, while some may like the individualistic approach. Similarly, you may bring some unique skill, which I may not have. In other context, our priorities may not match. What you expect from me may not be on top of my list and therefore I may not attend to it with same sense of urgency that you expect. More fundamentally, we may not share the same personality. You may be very talkative and outgoing person while I may be a reserved and shy kind of a person. I may not feel comfortable to speak up in your presence where you are speaking aggressively. Or you may get irritated looking at me sitting silently in meetings. Who is right? The key point here is not to debate who is right; rather it is important to note that we are different and others exactly may not be like me in all aspects. Appreciate the diversity and learn to coexist. We can learn to understand others and see how we can complement each other so as to achieve the results together. What will be the unifying force? Our positive intent and commitment towards the organisation and the goal is the crucial link that aligns all of us despite the diversity. A mature professional need to understand that others are not exactly like him/her and yet respect others as crucial contributors to the bigger goals. The spirit to adopt is: together we can! This article was published in:  HR Mirror, Hans India Follow Dr. Raj on Twitter @drraj29 

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